8 Signs Someone Is Jealous Of You (And How To Fix It)

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“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” – William Penn

Nothing feels worse than achieving a goal or becoming successful in an endeavor and discovering that the people around you don’t feel proud or positive about it – but rather, they feel jealous. A person’s jealous feelings can cause them to act unkindly towards us, especially in the face of our own achievements or success.

Psychologist Steven Stosny says that jealousy “makes you think the same thing over and over and the more you do that, the less reality-testing you do. Emotions all have an illusion of certainty, and jealousy makes you certain of your perception of the world.

Everyone has felt this unpleasant emotion at least once in their lives, and most likely much more than that. It seems much harder to deal with when other people feel jealous towards us, though. After all, we can control how we feel, but we can’t control other people’s emotions. Recognizing the signs that someone is jealous of you can be the first step to fixing it.

HERE ARE EIGHT SIGNS SOMEONE’S JEALOUS OF YOU

1. FALSE PRAISE

When someone is jealous of you, they’re often the first to give you a compliment that sounds sincere, or seems to be dripping with passive aggression. However, you’ll find that these people will be rolling their eyes the minute you leave the room.

They would rather pretend they’re not jealous than address the issue. One way to turn it back around is to give them sincere compliments when something good happens to them. It may help them see that you’re a genuine person, and help curb their jealousy.

Clinical psychologist Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., says, “Short of becoming indiscriminately wary of others’ praise or flattery, it’s only prudent to consider whether they might have a hidden agenda in praising you. That way you can minimize the possibility that their seemingly trustworthy compliments aren’t really some sort of two-faced con.

2. DOWNPLAY YOUR SUCCESS

No matter what you achieve or how hard you worked to do so, jealous people will always try to make it seem like it was a fluke, or that you didn’t work as hard as you did to achieve your success. The reasons that they come up with may be rude or condescending.

People who will envy you the most are the ones who are in need the most of what you possess, says M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Rising to their bait will only make them more likely to talk poorly. Stay humble but firm in your achievements. If you brag, they may be more likely to stay jealous of you.

3. FLAUNTING THEIR SUCCESS

Someone who is jealous of you may be more inclined to flaunt their success more than it’s really worth flaunting. They may be more inclined to flaunt their own achievements while you’re celebrating your own. These are the type of people to get engaged at a wedding.

But why do they flaunt their success in the first place?

Because chances are, they’re not as successful as you are. Author Bob Bly states, “There are always people who are filled with negative thoughts — not only about others whom they envy (you) but also about themselves and their perceived failure to having achieved their goals (which are often to own their own business or be richer than they are).

While it may be frustrating, getting upset is only going to make them feel more justified in their behavior. Instead, offer them sincere praise in their achievements. Leading by example is a good way to alter someone’s behavior.

4. THEY’RE IMITATING YOU

Someone who is jealous of you alternatively wants to be better than you, and also be just like you. They may imitate the way you talk or the way you dress in order to feel better about themselves. Instead of allowing this to upset you, try to encourage them to go their own way. When they’re doing their own thing, give them positive reinforcement. Show them that they don’t have to be you to be great, and that they can be their own person.

5. THEY’RE COMPETITIVE

Jealous people tend to be highly competitive, because they always want to be the one reaping the success or as clinical psychologist Melanie Greenberg says, they are “either insecure or arrogant and want to prove superiority.

While it can be tempting to take them down a peg, refuse to make the competition unhealthy, or even refuse to participate. If they try to argue with you about a job promotion, just simply tell them: “It isn’t a competition.” Refusing to play into their game will make them less likely to try and continue to one up you.

6. CELEBRATING YOUR FAILURES

Someone who is jealous is going to privately feel very good about when you make mistakes, or get reprimanded or corrected at work or school. While they may never show it, they’re often secretly enjoying your failures. Handle your mistakes with grace! You can always remind them that making mistakes are part of life and learning. If you’re not upset, they’re not getting the enjoyment out of it that they thought they would.

7. THEY GOSSIP BEHIND YOUR BACK

Jealous people will always find a way to talk about you behind your back. It’s not fun, and the things they say can be malicious and hurtful. The best way to deal with someone who does this may be just to confront them directly.

As author James Clear mentions, “… negativity from other people is like a wall. And if you focus on it, then you’ll run right into it. You’ll get blocked by negative emotions, anger, and self-doubt. Your mind will go where your attention is focused. Criticism and negativity don’t prevent you from reaching the finish line, but they can certainly distract you from it.

Since jealous people don’t tend to be outwardly confrontational, talking to them seriously about what they’re doing may be enough to get them to rethink their behavior, or to get it to stop entirely.

8. THEY HATE YOU

If there’s someone you know who hates you for no conceivable reason, they may just be jealous. This one is hard to deal with, because we often don’t like to be hated for no reason. You may feel the urge to show this person that you’re entirely likeable. But, there may be nothing to do about it. If you can’t charm them into liking you, it may just be best to cut them out of your life. You don’t need that negativity, and they’re most likely working themselves up hating you for no reason. The best way to fix it is to let it go.

Final thoughts

Dealing with someone else’s jealousy can be a tricky situation. You may feel the desire to just tell them off. But, dealing with a jealous person in a non-confrontational and positive manner is ultimately better for both you and the other person. They may feel a lot of self-esteem issues that they need to work through, and getting upset with them won’t fix or deal with their jealous tendencies. Knowing the signs of a jealous person will make it easier to fix and handle in a positive and productive manner.

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7 Signs of a Vitamin D Deficiency

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Vitamin D is a fat-soluble vitamin that plays a role in many important body functions. It is best known for working with calcium in your body to help build and maintain strong bones. Vitamin D is also involved in regulating the immune system and cells, where it may help prevent cancer. – University of Maryland Medical Center

Vitamin D is perhaps the most important nutrient when discussing bone or immune system health. Not only does adequate consumption of vitamin D preserve bone and immune system health, it’s also thought to prevent a number of serious health conditions.

A deficiency of vitamin D is best known for causing rickets (brittle bones) in children, a condition in which the tissue of the bone doesn’t fortify or mineralize. This condition often leads to fragile bones and skeletal deformities, frequently coinciding with increased risk of injury. However, more recent research is uncovering the link between vitamin D deficiency and a host of other health conditions.

Research suggests that vitamin D may play a role in both the prevention and treatment of hypertension, type 1 and type 2 diabetes, multiple sclerosis (MS), and hypertension.

Given the importance of consuming vitamin D, we’ll identify seven different ways to uncover a potential vitamin D deficiency. Armed with this knowledge, we’ll be in a better position to correct any shortfall and safeguard our health.

HERE ARE 7 WARNING SIGNS OF A VITAMIN D DEFICIENCY:

1. PAIN AND MUSCLE WEAKNESS

The degree of pain and muscle weakness can vary from subtle to severe. Initially, symptoms of this type are almost non-present; however, as the deficiency becomes longer in duration, associated symptoms tend to become worse. The reason is that vitamin D, when metabolized, enhances muscle contraction – an essential mechanism for strengthening bones.

2. IMPAIRED IMMUNE SYSTEM

When vitamin D levels are low, our immune system is inextricably affected. A high concentration of vitamin D receptors can be found in the immune cells, an area of the body that requires sufficient vitamin D supplementation. In one Japanese studypublished in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, schoolchildren that were given vitamin D supplements recorded fewer instances of the flu strain influenza A than those who did not receive supplements.

In another study, individuals diagnosed with an autoimmune disease also tested for low levels of D vitamin.

3. HYPERTENSION

Hypertension (high blood pressure) often results when the body’s levels of vitamin D are low. Our body formulates a peptide that increases blood pressure through arterial restriction and water retention. Vitamin D serves as a countermeasure, suppressing this enzymatic reaction and reducing the body’s inappropriate and exacerbated response to this peptide, thus normalizing blood pressure levels.

4. FEELINGS OF SADNESS/DEPRESSION

A link has been made between sadness/depression and low levels of vitamin D. One particularly interesting discovery involves the correlation between seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a seasonal depressive condition, and fluctuating levels of vitamin D3.  In one study, participants given D3 supplementation experienced enhanced positive effects and a reduction of negative effects – both physical and cognitive. Participants reported a significantly diminished presence of various symptoms, including food cravings, hypersomnia, lethargy, and sleep disturbances.

5. GUT TROUBLES

Certain gastrointestinal conditions affect vitamin D absorption. Those with celiac, Crohn’s, inflammatory bowel disease and other conditions are likely to be at a greater risk of vitamin D deficiency because of these interactions. Furthermore, those with high amounts of body fat are prone to vitamin D deficiency since fat dilutes the vitamin and reduces its physiological effects.

6. EXCESSIVE SWEATING

A strange addition to this list is the tendency of people to sweat more without sufficient vitamin D levels. Contrary to many of the items on this list, medical experts aren’t quite certain why we sweat more with low vitamin D levels. All that’s known is that there seems to be an inseparable link between low vitamin D and excessive sweating, especially around the forehead.

7. HEART CONDITIONS

There exists a probable correlation between low vitamin D levels and cardiovascular disease. Medical professionals believe that low levels of the vitamin result in higher concentrations of calcium buildup in the arteries; calcium buildup is plaque that forms in the arteries and increases the risk of heart attack or stroke. Other conditions linked to low vitamin D levels – hypertension, type 2 diabetes, obesity and high cholesterol – appear to solidify the connection between vitamin D levels and heart health.

Sources of Vitamin D

Now that we’ve discussed seven symptoms associated with vitamin D deficiency, we’ll list some common sources of the nutrient. Remember to get the recommended daily amount of vitamin D on a daily basis.

– Sunlight

– Orange Juice (Vitamin D fortified)

– Fortified Plant-Based Milks

Source:www.powerofpositivity.com

7 Signs He Is In Love With You, Even if He Doesn’t Say it

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Men and women display their love and affection in different ways. Most women say, “I love you,” profusely and often, while most men show their deep affinity in their day to day actions.

It can be confusing at times, but that’s because the truth is, men and women think differently. So, we decide to research for you and come up with a list of seven common sets of behaviors that directly demonstrate that he is in love with you, even if he doesn’t say it.

We truly believe that love is in what you do, not always in what you say. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. You know?

7 SIGNS HE IS IN LOVE WITH YOU:

1. HE ISN’T AFRAID TO MAKE SACRIFICES FOR YOU.

Making sacrifices for other people is easier to do when its for someone we care about. It takes selflessness, maturity, and most of all love. Relationships need a balance of mutual sacrifice or one party is left unhappy.

Men who are in love feel tremendous discomfort at the thought of their lady being unhappy, and if it’s something they can prevent, they will. Sometimes they will even go above and beyond to make something work out, just because it’s really important to their partner.

If your man can make sacrifices for your happiness, that is just one way he is saying, “I love you”, without actually saying it.

2. HE LISTENS TO YOU.

Studies have found that women are much better listeners than men.  So, when a man not only hears you but actively pays attention and responds – a skill called active listening – you can have confidence that he cares.

Taking it a next step further, if he acts on your conversations, he’s smitten. <3

 

3. HE SHOWS HIS VULNERABILITY.

Men are generally cautious when it comes to showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as a weakness. They feel that they need to keep a perfect facade of strength.

But when a man is in love, he begins to let his guard down. He becomes more comfortable and allows his real feelings to show. Vulnerability can take time, but if he’s shown even an ounce, he trusts you enough to let his guard down around you.

4. HE LOVES HOW YOU LOOK ON YOUR “WORST DAYS”.

Most people put effort into looking their absolute very best during those early dates. We want to look and feel good when meeting up with a potential life long partner.

But, once the actual relationship spawns and we spend more time with each other, comfort levels build, and our need to impress declines sharply. We’re free to wander around in our pajamas, no makeup or messy hair.

The big take away here is that when a man loves a woman, he’ll think she is beautiful no matter what she looks like. 

So when he tells you, “You’re beautiful,” when you feel like a mess, take it for what it is and remember that is the equivalent to saying, “I love you.”

5. HE’S PROUD OF YOU.

When a man really loves a woman, he shows it by bragging about you. Yep, that’s right a real man isn’t shy about saying how proud he is of you.

Whether you’re a fantastic mother, a hard worker, or achieving your goals, you can rest assured that your efforts don’t go unnoticed to the man that is in love. So when he tells you, it’s his way of saying, “I love you.”

 

6. HE STICKS UP FOR YOU.

This one’s obvious one, but very important. First lets be clear, if he doesn’t stick up for you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. This is a hard one. Most of the time drama and controversy can arise with a close family member or friend.

Most men like to avoid controversy, so if he defends you, that’s big and it’s definitely his way of saying, “I love you.”

7. HE TREATS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS WITH RESPECT.

This is the last one, but it is surely one of the MOST important. It’ s a given that in any relationship, a man should automatically show you, your family and friends respect.  The reason is simple; he cares for you and he needs to properly treat them with care as well.

While he may not like every single one of your family members or  “catty” friends, he’ll keep his opinion to himself, because he knows how much they mean to you. Creating a good report with them is definitely his way of showing you he loves you, without actually saying it.

All in all, the take away here is to remember to appreciate all of the little things that he does and realize that they are acts of love. He may not say he loves you as much as you say it, but his way of displaying affection is biologically different than yours. Deal?!

How many of these behaviors does your man display? 

If he displays them all, he could be a keeper. 😉

Source:www.powerofpositivity.com

5 Signs of a Pinched Nerve In Your Back

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“A pinched nerve occurs when too much pressure is applied to a nerve by surrounding tissues, such as bones, cartilage, muscles or tendons.” ~ Mayo Clinic

“Holy Ow!”

Yeah. Pinched back nerves are often very painful. If you’ve ever had the displeasure of having one, you can probably relate.

A pinched nerve occurs when there’s an excessive amount of pressure on a nerve surrounding our tissues; including the bones, cartilage, muscles or tendons. This pressure is disruptive to nerve function, resulting in feelings of pain, numbness and/or weakness, and tingling (“pins and needles.”)

Spinal nerves are the most susceptible to pinching. Part of the reason is that these nerves extend to so many areas of the body; hence, when the nerve pinches, the pain can radiate along the nerve and spread to other body parts.

For example, nerves exiting the cervical area of the back extend to the arms, hands, and fingers. When this nerve is compressed, pain is felt in those areas.

CAUSES OF A PINCHED NERVE

Stephanie Burke, CEO of Spine-health, cites the top three causes of pinched nerves:

– Herniated disks: “Injury or weakness can cause the inner portion of (a) disk to protrude through the outer ring (of the spine.)”

 Spinal Stenosis: “a narrowing of the bone channel occupied by the spinal nerves or the spinal cord.”

– Bone Spurs: “an enlargement of the normal bone (structures).”

Rarely, other conditions – such as infection, tumor, or a slipped vertebra may cause nerves to pinch.

Sensory and motor nerves

There are two main types of nerve fibers, sensory and motor. As such, when a nerve is compressed, one or both functions may be affected. Further, the severity of compression on the nerve will dictate the degree in which symptoms are felt.

Sensory nerves transmit signals from a part of the body to the spine. Motor nerves originate in the brain and are transmitted via the spine. Distinguishing between the two nerve types is key to understanding the symptoms of a pinched nerve.

5 SIGNS OF A PINCHED NERVE

Now that we have an idea of what constitutes a pinched nerve, what potentially causes it, and the difference between sensory and motor nerves, let’s take a look at some of the potential signs of the condition.

1. DULL SENSATION/NUMBNESS

When one of the sensory nerves of the back is pinched, the strength of signal is adversely affected. This impairs normal sensory perception, which can be felt as a dulling or numbing sensation.

For example, a pinched sensory nerve in the cervical or thoracic areas may lead to numbness in the arms, fingers, or hands.

2. IMPAIRED MOTOR COORDINATION

Many of the routine things we do – typing, writing, walking, etc. – are taken for granted. However, these actions would not be possible without proper motor coordination.

When motor nerves are pinched, the brain can not accurately perceive feedback. Given that motor coordination is a two-way street (feedback to and from the brain), the brain and body’s ability to stimulate the proper muscles necessary for motor coordination diminishes.

3. MUSCLE WEAKNESS OR ATROPHY

The strength and longevity of our muscles depend on two things: mass and contraction, respectively. When motor nerves are pinched, the functionality of contraction is impaired – this is felt as muscle weakness.

In rare but severe cases, muscle atrophy (or shrinkage) occurs. Of course, the earlier that muscle weakness is detected and examined, the better the prognosis.

4. PAIN OR BURNING

Pain and/or burning sensations surface when the root of a sensory nerve compresses. The most commonly reported symptoms include: burning or tingling of the feet, buttocks, legs, thighs, or lower back. These areas are often not where the actual problem resides, however.

For example, it’s common to feel pain in the thigh region and think (naturally) that’s where the problem lies. But with pinched sensory nerves, it’s likely that the problem originates from a compressed femoral nerve in the lower back region.

5. RADIATING PAIN/SPASMS

A pinched nerve may also manifest as a radiating (“shooting”) type of pain, usually felt in the legs or lower back region. A pinched peripheral nerve may also induce muscle spasms in the lower back, which can be very painful.

Sciatica, a condition that includes shooting pains of the lower back, hip, and outer side of the leg, is caused by compression of a spinal nerve root in the lower back.

TREATING PINCHED NERVES

Stewart Eidelson M.D. – an orthopedic surgeon and founder of the South Palm Orthospine Institute in Boca Raton, Florida – provides the following self-care tips when dealing with a pinched nerve:

– Alternate heat and ice on the affected area: “switch between (heat and ice) every 20 minutes, and remember to wrap the heat and ice packs in a towel before putting them on your skin.”

– Get a professional massage

– Lie down with a rolled up towel under your neck

– Use a handheld massager

– Take a light stroll

– Lie down on a bed/couch and pull your knees toward your chest

– Take an anti-inflammatory medicine, such as Aleve or Advil.

“If your pain persists more than a couple of days, make an appointment to see your doctor,” says Eidelson.

Source:www.powerofpositivity.com