8 Ways To Be Intimate With Your Partner (without having sex)

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If you and your partner plan to be together for a long time to come, you’ll surely want to find ways to stay close far into your future, and it doesn’t always mean getting physical with each other. If you can keep the spark alive, it can be rekindled into a flame of passion that can keep a long-term romance from becoming just a companionship.

8 WAYS TO BE INTIMATE WITH YOUR PARTNER (WITHOUT HAVING SEX)

1. COMMUNICATION IS INTIMACY

Researchers studying closeness in long-term relationships found that ‘disclosure about needs, wants, and desires may be an important way to promote sexual communal strength in ongoing relationships.’ Simply talking through what you like is a way to create a close, intimate bond with your partner and keep the spark alive in your relationship.

Ask open-ended questions about what your partner needs and wants in order to feel fulfilled in the relationship. You don’t want to find out after a two year relationship that your partner needed something that you weren’t giving them so they decided to leave.

2. GET GOOD AT GUESSING YOUR PARTNER’S EMOTIONS

Can you tell what your partner is feeling right now? By looking at his or her body language, facial expressions and tone of voice, as well as his or her words you should be able to tell. If your partner is not looking ‘joyful,’ consider it your job to make sure that you do your best to help change their expression to a positive one.

Empathy is something that emotionally sensitive people can give to their partner. Supporting your partner’s emotions, no matter what they are, and giving them a supportive place to express them is one of the best gifts that you can give to your partner.

3. USE ALL OF YOUR SENSES

If you can’t describe your partner’s scent, focus on your sense of smell the next time you spend close time together. Do the same thing for your sense of touch. Be present in the moment of your partner’s body existing next to yours in warm, intimate closeness.

4. OPEN UP

Emotional openness is one way to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Honest communication builds trust between partners. When you trust your partner, you are more willing to open yourself to be vulnerable, which we are during sex.

Open up about what you are afraid your partner won’t like about you. Showing vulnerability can be very sexy. Exploring the emotion of vulnerability is one way to keep the spark alive in your relationship.

5. FOCUS ON THE FUTURE TOGETHER

Commitment means that you continue to have a shared goal of being happy together in the future, and knowing that your relationship is secure is very sexy. Security and trust is important in order for you to feel trusting enough to work to keep the spark alive in your relationship.

6. COME TOGETHER

Create a communal bond with your partner by working toward something as a partnership. For example, you might work toward early retirement and a future travel goal with your lover. The shared destiny will keep you a united front moving forward together.

7. SHARE MEMORIES OF YOUR CHILDHOOD

You might think you know your partner completely, but there are surely that you don’t know about each other’s past before you met, or even way before that. Our early memories with our family are often the building blocks for how we see relationships.

These beliefs about closeness, love, trust, etc. are formed in our youth and sharing these memories with your partner can be a bonding experience. How old were you when you first learned what sex was? What do you wish your parents did differently in their relationship?

Express gratitude for your partner’s past experiences that brought them into the right moment of your life. The same researchers who studied closeness in long-term relationships also say ‘expressing gratitude to a relationship partner promotes communal strength.’

8. MAKE NEW MEMORIES

Having more fun with your partner is the most fun way to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Think about what you both love doing and spend lots of time doing it.

In a study of traits that men and women found desirable, someone who was ‘personable’ aroused more passion in both men and women. Being ‘personable’ meant that participants rated the person they felt passion for as being ‘fun, responsive, trustworthy, and nice.’ Obviously you could try being all of these things to your partner, but committing to have fun with your partner is one way you can keep the spark alive in your relationship.

When was the last time you laughed together? No, I mean, REALLY laughed? Positive people know that there should be lots more laughing between lovers and that it’s the best contagious thing you can catch. Laughing is one perfectly acceptable display of affection.

Source:www.powerofpositivity.com

 

10 Things To Tell Your Partner When Your Relationship Is Difficult

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Things are tough at home right now and have been for some time. Do you press the eject button or do you press on?

Before throwing your partner’s things in a bin liner and calling a divorce lawyer, let us take a trip to the beautiful islands of Hawaii. From Wooloongabba, Wyoming or Warwickshire, envision the warmth of the sand on Waikiki Beach between your toes with the refreshing Trade Winds gently blowing. Let your imagination comfort you for a moment and let us be one with the indigenous Hawaiian people, for part of our journey today involves teachings from Ho’oponopono. As we go through the list, the parts of Ho’oponopono will become apparent and will be explained in relation to how to remedy difficulty in relationships.

10 THINGS TO TELL YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFICULT

1. “WHAT DO YOU NEED FROM ME RIGHT NOW?”

Here is the normal scenario in Wyoming, Wooloongabba or Warwickshire: There is a disagreement or argument brewing.Wife wants to fight. Husband wants to withdraw. She gives chase, hoping for a reaction and he normally tries to stay silent. Naturally, these roles can be reversed.

Asking the above question to your partner tells them subtly that you want to connect, not withdraw or avoid. This will in turn calm them down, which gives way to civilised discussion and possible problem solving.

2. “HOW CAN I HELP TO TAKE SOME OF THE BURDEN OFF TODAY?”

The response could be as simple as a “please listen to me” after a long, hard day or as intimate as giving a nice back rub. This gives your partner an opportunity to let off steam in whichever way they choose. This shows that you are as cool as a cucumber under pressure, and not going bananas like a crazed monkey!

Asking the above question to your partner tells them subtly that you care for them despite what has gone on between the pair of you. You are in a relationship and both parties have the right to benefits by being in one.

3. “I’M SORRY.”

Being specific as to why and how to improve for next time.

Grab your sun-screen and your beach towel, folks, it is time to make our first stop in Hawaii. This is Ho’oponopono Rule #1. Being sorry, or “minamina” in Hawaiian, because you know that you have done wrong and want to right that wrong, which breathes life into the lungs of a relationship, much like the aforementioned Trade Winds in the Hawaiian archipelago. Being specific about why you are sorry is very important because it disarms more powerfully and talking of improving on that foible can start to melt the Ice King/Queen.

Example: “I apologise for not taking out the trash last night, babe. I understand that the kitchen stinks because of my forgetful actions and I will be more aware next time.”

4. “THANK YOU.”

Being specific as to why.

Staying in Hawai’i for this this one. This is Ho’oponopono Rule #3. Being grateful is such an appealing trait and makes you a more attractive person. It works in Wyoming, Warwickshire, Wooloongabba, or Waikiki Beach. It makes your significant other want to do more things with you and for you because you let them know that you appreciate them, and especially so if you are thanking them for mundane tasks – people do not expect it for those. This following example is like having your feet caressed by the warm Pacific Ocean waters on the Hawaiian beach. Mahalo!

Example: “Thank you so much for taking out the trash last night, babe. I really appreciate it when you take the time to do it, even though you have that important meeting with Akamai this morning.”

5. “I’M PROUD OF YOU.”

Being specific as to why.

Knowing that you are doing well and having your good work appreciated at home is deeply rewarding. Feeling valued with your loved ones will give an ego boost, making the smallest of us feel like the tallest. This is accentuated by big news, like a promotion or playing/coaching a grassroots sports team, or even better when your partner was brave in the face of fear. Imagine your honey bunny saving someone’s life, the ultimate life accomplishment!

Example: “I am so proud of you for sticking up for that elderly lady. Many people would have swerved it, but not my boo. You are my hero and our kids are lucky to have a mum/dad like you.”

6. “OUR KIDS ARE LUCKY TO HAVE A MUM/DAD LIKE YOU.”

Being told that you are a great role model for Trixie and Trevor is the stand-out compliment one human being can give to another, knowing how hard a task being a parent is. If it comes from your other half, expect them to do somersaults in the living room, nevermind having a spring in their step!

Example: See Number 5.

7. “PLEASE FORGIVE ME.”

Being specific as to why.

The whole thing of asking for forgiveness and giving it is one of the hardest things a couple goes through between themselves. To take the edge off things, we are back in Hawai’i with Ho’oponopono Rule #2. This is the continuation of Number 3, mending the damage already done, but Operation Kala is well under way. It is like climbing Diamond Head volcano on O’ahu; it is an arduous, sometimes scary journey, but the view from the top is spectacular.

Example: “Please forgive me for eyeing up that Hawaiian lady in the grass skirt in front of you. I was insensitive and made you uncomfortable.”

8. “I LOVE YOU.”

Being specific as to why.

Unfortunately, this is our last visit to the Hawaiian archipelago with Ho’oponopono Rule #4. This is the sunset on a beautiful day of learning and discovery. To say “I love you”, or in Hawaiian “Aloha no au ia ‘oe”, is something that is sacred within a family and saying it every time all adds up in the brownie points bag. Do not forget to be specific about why you love your darling.

Example: “I love you because you are such a gentleman with my sister.”

Time to board the plane in Honolulu back to reality, unless Hawai’i is your reality in which you are one lucky son/daughter of a gun!

9. “I’M GOING TO MAKE MORE OF AN EFFORT TO…”

This is important because your beau/belle deserves a partner who is always changing and growing as a person, who in turn becomes a better partner. How much of a difference would it make to your relationship if you say you will change for the better, and then back those words up with action?

Example: “I will make more of an effort with the kids’ homework. I know I should have done Trixie’s twelve times table yesterday. I will come home early today and help her with her spellings.”

10. “THANK YOU FOR BEING SOMEONE I CAN RESPECT.”

What are the odds on a relationship staying alive with someone you do not respect and admire? “Without respect, there is no love,” says the old adage. Knowing that you are respected at home breeds self-esteem, which can be transmitted into other areas of your life. A respected person is a happy person, after all.

Aloha!

Source:www.powerofpositivity.com

Fusion GPS Partner Refuses the 5th, Strikes Deal to Testify

Less than a month after two Fusion GPS co-founders pleaded the fifth and refused to testify to the House Intelligence Committee regarding the Trump-Russian dossier, a third co-founder has agreed to answer questions from the committee next week.

The testimony of Glenn Simpson, a former journalist who helped commission the Russia dossier with allegations of collusion by President Donald Trump’s top aides, was offered as part of a deal between the committee and Fusion GPS, according to CNN.

The committee had issued a subpoena for Simpson’s testimony, but in exchange for his voluntary appearance, the committee agreed to withdraw the subpoena.

Joshua Levy, an attorney for Fusion GPS, explained that Simpson had agreed to testify after the committee agreed to the certain conditions.

“Mr. Simpson will be appearing voluntarily, he will tell the truth, the subpoena will be withdrawn, and he will be able to maintain Fusion GPS’ privileges and honor its legal obligations,” Levy said. “Through a voluntary interview, he has the ability to appear with counsel, to assert privileges and to answer questions that he chooses to answer.”

The committee had also subpoenaed bank records from Fusion GPS, which subsequently filed an injunction in court to try to stop the release of those documents.

The battle of those records was not impacted by Simpson’s agreement to testify.

Last month, other Fusion GPS co-founderes Peter Fritsch and Thomas Catán were subpoenaed to appear before the House panel, but invoked their constitutional right not to answer questions.

The committee has been searching for answers regarding who paid Fusion for the 35-page dossier, compiled by British spy Christopher Steele, that outlined Trump’s alleged interactions with Russians during his campaign.

We already know that the firm was hired by Hillary Clinton and the DNC to collect damaging information about Trump, although they have maintained that they did not direct Steele’s activities in regards to the dossier, according to The Washington Post.

Though, who really believes that?

We’re talking about the same people who colluded to ensure that Clinton won the 2016 Democratic presidential nomination and then lied about it.

Hopefully, the testimony of this Fusion co-founder will paint a clearer picture of what exactly went on behind the scenes of the dossier, and just how much collusion was taking place between Russia, Clinton and the DNC.

Source:www.usapoliticstoday.org